Daily Marital Interactions and Positive Affect During Marital Conflict Among Newlywed Couples
Driver & Gottman (2004) · Family Process, 43(3)
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What it found
In an observational study of newlyweds, everyday bids for attention — and whether a partner turned toward them — were associated with positive affect and humour during later conflict discussions.
Turning toward a partner in ordinary moments was associated with more positive affect and humour during conflict discussions.
In observed newlyweds, turning toward a partner in ordinary moments was associated with more positive affect during later conflict.
What it does not show
A small observational study of newlyweds. Correlational: it links everyday bids to affect during later conflict, it does not show that changing the bids changes the conflict.
And where we carry it further
Small newlywed sample, and several widely-quoted Gottman percentages come from popular writing rather than this paper. Take the direction, not the numbers.
Observational and correlational. The twenty minutes is our number, not theirs.
Small sample, observational, and about couples. The direction is the useful part.
Observational and correlational, on a small newlywed sample. The twenty minutes is our number, not theirs, and several widely-quoted percentages from this literature come from popular writing rather than the paper.
Where we rely on it
4 places in the academy. If this paper turned out to be wrong, this is the list that would have to change. Some of the instructions below are part of Gold; none of the findings are.
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