Daily Marital Interactions and Positive Affect During Marital Conflict Among Newlywed Couples
Driver & Gottman (2004) · Family Process, 43(3)
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What the study found
A study observed newly married couples. When one partner made a small everyday request for attention and the other responded, the couple showed more positive feeling and more humour when they later discussed a conflict.
Responding to a partner in ordinary moments was linked to more positive feeling and more humour when the couple discussed a conflict.
In a study that observed newlyweds, responding to a partner in ordinary moments was linked to more positive feeling during later arguments.
What the study cannot prove
This was a small study that observed newlyweds and found a link, not a cause. It links everyday requests for attention to feelings during later arguments. It does not show that changing those requests changes the arguments.
Limits we note on the exercises
The sample of newlyweds was small, and several widely quoted Gottman percentages come from popular books, not from this paper. Trust the direction of the result, not the numbers.
The study observed couples and found a link, not a cause. The twenty minutes is our number, not theirs.
The sample was small, the study only observed couples, and it found a link, not a cause. The direction of the result is the useful part.
The study observed a small sample of newlyweds and found a link, not a cause. The twenty minutes is our number, not theirs. Several widely quoted percentages in this area come from popular books, not from the paper.
Where we use it
We use this paper in 4 places in the academy. If the paper turned out to be wrong, we would have to change everything in this list. Some of the exercise instructions below are part of Gold. You can read every finding for free.
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