Perspective Mistaking: Accurately Understanding the Mind of Another Requires Getting Perspective, Not Taking Perspective
Eyal, Steffel & Epley (2018) · Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 114(4)
Relied on in 3 places across the academy · 2 stated limits
What it found
Across 25 experiments, being instructed to take another person's perspective did not reliably improve accuracy about them — and sometimes reduced it while increasing confidence. What worked was getting the perspective: asking.
Checking your understanding out loud is the “getting perspective” move that improved accuracy where imagining their view did not.
Across twenty-five experiments, actively imagining another person's perspective failed to improve accuracy about what they were thinking; asking them did.
What it does not show
Twenty-five experiments on accuracy about another person's thoughts and feelings. It shows that imagining their perspective does not improve accuracy, and that asking them does.
And where we carry it further
This corrects Carnegie rather than confirming him. Imagining their view is the part that fails; asking is the part that works.
Which is why this exercise ends in saying it to them rather than in deciding it for them.
Where we rely on it
3 places in the academy. If this paper turned out to be wrong, this is the list that would have to change. Some of the instructions below are part of Gold; none of the findings are.
Cited alongside it
Papers that sit under the same topics and films. Not a claim that they agree with each other — only that the same exercises lean on both.
(Mis)Understanding Our Influence Over Others: A Review of the Underestimated-Compliance Effect
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Clark & Wells (1995)Daily Marital Interactions and Positive Affect During Marital Conflict Among Newlywed Couples
Driver & Gottman (2004)Duration Neglect in Retrospective Evaluations of Affective Episodes; When More Pain Is Preferred to Less
Fredrickson & Kahneman (1993); Kahneman, Fredrickson, Schreiber & Redelmeier (1993)Post-Event Processing in Social Anxiety
Rachman, Grüter-Andrew & Shafran (2000)Disclosing Information About the Self Is Intrinsically Rewarding
Tamir & Mitchell (2012)Research
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