A nightly course in talking to people
Stop going quiet. Start the conversation.
Talk to anyone, even the person you like.
Each night you watch a two-minute video, then try one small thing in real life, like holding eye contact a little longer or asking a stranger what they would order. 200 exercises. The easy ones come first.
Free to start. No card. Not pickup.
4 questions · your type
You walk into a room full of strangers. What do you do first?
There are no right answers. Tonight’s video is under two and a half minutes long.
What’s inside
- 20 topics
- 200 small exercises
- 31 situations, with what to say
- 17 steps, starting easy
- The Rejection Room
- Your progress, saved
The lessons come from how well-liked people in history behaved, with the manipulative parts removed. No card. Free to start, always. Gold is $19.99 paid once, or $4.99 a month.
Night 1 · what you get tonight
- IThe ApproachVideo · 2:22
- IIThe two-beat lookMake eye contact with three people today. Each time, hold it about two seconds longer than feels comfortable, then look away calmly. You do not need to say anything.
What do I say when…
31 real situations, with the exact words.
For each one you get the words, how to say them, and what to do next whether the answer is warm or cold. 4 are free. Tap one.
Bookshop, same table
They are holding a book that you have read, or one you chose not to read. You are both standing at the same table, and neither of you is in a hurry.
“That is the second time this week I have seen someone with that book. Is it really good, or is it just popular right now?”
How: Say it from where you are standing. Do not walk across the shop. Look at the book, then at them, then stop talking and wait for the answer.
Why it works: It gives you a reason to speak that is about the book, not about them. The second half offers them two easy answers: an honest one and a joking one.
Café queue
There are four people ahead of you. For ninety seconds you are standing close together. Neither of you can leave, and neither of you has anything to do.
“Do you know what is good here, or are we both guessing?”
How: Ask it while you are looking at the menu, not at them. Turn your head towards them on the last few words.
Why it works: A queue is one of the few places where it is normal to speak to a stranger, because you are both clearly stuck in the same small situation. The important word is “we”.
Train or bus, seated
You are sitting opposite or beside someone, and you both know how long the journey is. There is something you share: a delay, a view, a book, or a dog on board.
“Is this the one that stops at [station], or have I got that wrong?”
How: Let them answer, and wait two full seconds before your next question: “Thanks. Long day?” Do not ask both at once. The pause shows them that the second question is a choice and not a routine.
Why it works: The first question is a real question, and it ends by itself, so it costs them nothing. The second question starts the conversation. By then you are a person they have already helped.
Gym, same hour every week
This is the person you have seen at the same class or the same time for a month. You have nodded twice. Neither of you has said a word.
“We have both been coming at 7am for about a month now. I am [your name].”
How: Say it after the session, never during it. Say it standing up, with your water bottle in your hand, on your way out, so that leaving is already part of the moment.
Why it works: You are not a stranger. You are a regular they have not spoken to yet. When you mention the pattern, four weeks of seeing each other become an introduction, and neither of you has to pretend it is chance.
The other 27 are Gold, and they are the harder ones:
- Park, with a dog present
- Gallery, same picture
- Evening class, week three
- Party, via the host
- Gig, between sets
- Travelling alone
- Bar, standing
- Work, adjacent team
- App, first message
- The chat that went quiet
- Flight, seated beside
- Platform, delayed
- The neighbour in the lobby
- Same café, same morning
- Wedding, same table
- The group that has closed up
- Outside, in the smoking area
- Day two of a group thing
- Conference, between talks
- Turning the chat into a meeting
- Saturday market, same stall
- The Thursday thing, friend-of-a-friend
- Colleague on another team, weekly meeting
- First date, the first silence
- First date, the bill arrives
- First date, the goodbye
- A match with nothing to go on
Where it takes you
In four weeks you go from making eye contact to asking for someone's number.
It takes nine minutes a night. There is no feed and nothing to keep up with.
Watch one video
Each video explains one idea simply. One video explains why a pause makes you look calm. Another explains why your second question matters more than your first.
You watch it on your phone, and it takes about two minutes.
Do one exercise
You do one small thing in real life, and you choose how brave it is. This week you might hold eye contact with three people. Next week you might say one sentence to a stranger.
You pick the level. You move up only when the last level stops scaring you.
Say how it went
You give it a score. If it went badly, you write it down, and we help you see what really happened. Two days later we ask you again.
The second score shows you whether you are getting better.
Do all three and the night counts towards your streak
The Rejection Room
Get over a bad moment the same night
You say something and it falls flat. Most people replay that moment for a week, and then they stop trying.
The Rejection Room takes ninety seconds. You write what you think happened, we show you the part your mind added, and you write a fairer version.
Two days later we ask how much it still stings, from 1 to 5. Over a month you can watch that number drop.
One bad moment, that night and two days later
“Everyone at that table saw me freeze.”
This is our example, not a real member's.
The part the mind added: that everyone was watching. In a 2000 study, people wearing an embarrassing T-shirt guessed half the room noticed. About a quarter did.
The month, step by step
Four weeks, and each week is a little harder than the last.
There are 17 steps. The first is pausing in a doorway before you walk in. You move up only when the step you are on stops scaring you.
Week 1
Being seen
You only have to be in the room.
From pause in the doorway to wear the thing you save for safe company.
Week 2
Speaking first
You say something short. The answer does not matter yet.
From a sentence to a stranger, daily to a genuine compliment, no follow-up.
Week 3
Staying in it
You keep the conversation going past the first reply.
From ask the second question to do it badly on purpose.
Week 4 and after
Asking, and being refused
You ask for something, and the answer can be no.
From ask for contact details once a week to say the vulnerable true thing.
What you get
20 topics. 200 exercises. 31 real situations with the words for them.
Each topic is one two-minute video and ten things to go and do. 7 topics and 4 situations are free for good. The other 13 topics and 27 situations are Gold.
- FreeFirst Contact
- FreeConversation Craft
- GoldDesire & Restraint
- GoldOut of the Friendzone
- FreeRejection Immunity
- GoldThe Long Devotion
- FreeThe Carnegie Method
- GoldDisagreeing Well
- GoldThe Casanova Method
- GoldThe Monroe Method
- FreeThe Written Voice
- GoldA Room of People
- FreeHow You Sound
- GoldPlaying
- GoldEnding It Well
- GoldThe Regular
- GoldThe First Date
- GoldThe Unanswered Message
- FreeMaking Friends
- GoldWhen Your Mind Goes Blank
Where the advice comes from
110 of the 200 exercises are backed by a published study.
Most dating advice sounds confident and is backed by nothing. Every exercise here tells you where it came from, so you can check.
We read all 47 studies ourselves, the full papers and not summaries of them. The other 66 exercises are marked our reading: our opinion, not proven. You always know which is which. See every source →
Why this exists
You practise it. You do not only read about it.
We could not find a course that made you go and do it, and told you where its advice came from. So we built one.
You do one real thing every night
Each night ends with one small thing you do in real life. Thirty nights of that teach you more than ten years of reading.
You can check where the advice comes from
Each exercise is marked as a study, a clinical method, a story from history, or our own opinion. When it is only our opinion, the label says so.
No tricks, and no rating people
You will not learn lines that stop working once someone knows you, and nobody gets scored. If your fear is bigger than shyness, we tell you and point you to a therapist.
What it costs
$19.99 once. Everything, for life.
Or $4.99 a month. The free plan never ends, but it has 7 of the 20 topics. First dates, unanswered messages and getting out of the friendzone are in Gold.
Suaviq Gold
$19.99
paid once, or $4.99 a monthWithout Gold, 13 topics (130 exercises) and 27 of the 31 situations stay locked, including first dates and unanswered messages.
- All 20 topics — 200 exercises, each with its source
- All 31 situations — what to say, what to say next, and why it works
- Every topic and situation added after you join, at no extra cost
- The Rejection Room, the 17-step ladder and the quiz, the same as on the free plan
One payment · yours for good · secure checkout by Stripe
Free plan
Free
forever · no card, no trial clockEnough to start tonight and keep going for weeks. You never need a card.
- 7 topics — 70 exercises
- 4 situations
- The nightly routine, the Rejection Room, the ladder
Is this for you?
Who this is for, and who it is not for
Read the two lists. It takes thirty seconds.
This is for you if
- You go quiet in rooms where you want to talk.
- You feel lonely and want more friends, or a partner, and you do not know how to start.
- You're fine with friends and freeze around someone you like.
- You've read the books and still haven't done anything.
- You want to be liked for who you are, not for a script.
Look elsewhere if
- You want tricks that only work until the other person sees through them.
- You want to rate or rank people. We don't do that.
- Your fear is bigger than shyness. That needs a therapist, and we'll tell you so.
Not sure? The first step is tiny: pause in the doorway. You move up only when the step you’re on stops scaring you.
Questions
Common questions
Is this pickup artistry?
No. You will not learn scripts, and nobody gets rated. We teach you to pay attention, time things well and stay calm. Where the old books get manipulative, we say so.
Is it for men or for women?
Both. Same lessons, same exercises. Going quiet around someone you like isn't a men's thing or a women's thing.
What if I am too anxious to do the exercises?
Then you start small. The first step is “Pause in the doorway”. Take one breath outside the door. Walk in more slowly than your nerves want. You move up only when the step you're on stops scaring you. Nobody pushes you.
Is this therapy?
No. It's practice, using the same simple tools therapists use for fear: write the thought down, spot what your mind added, try the smaller step first. If your fear is bigger than shyness, we'll tell you and point you to someone better.